This lovely little mama is my friend Louize's new pet. She was rescued from a puppy mill and fostered in a family home where she had 6 puppies. She is a tiny little thing and nursed all 6 of these rotund puppies until they all found homes after they were old enough. If we could all have as much faith as little Sheila!! She is an inspiration.
I am often told by new grandmothers/grandfathers that they can not help out with the new grandbabies because they are not sure what to do. This breaks my heart a little. The parents of the new mother are an important support for the new mom. Even if miles apart an answer to a question like "Did I ever do this when I was a baby?" or "How did you handle_________ when us kids were little?"
The best way of grandparenting is sharing your own wisdom while allowing your child, who is now a new parent, to develop their own. This may sometimes mean accepting different parenting from your own ways.
Some things in the health and research of pregnancy and newborns has changed. 50 years ago most babies were formula fed but now more women breastfeed their babies. A generation or two ago babies were slept on their tummies but now "back to sleep" is known to be safer for babies sleeping in a crib. Bumper pads were normal and now are not reccommended. Co sleeping has controversy but evidence shows that with safe sleep practices co sleeping can be beneficial to families. Many people are certain that picking babies up can spoil them but now we know that babies cry to express a need and that babies who have their needs met are secure, rather than "spoiled".
The bottom line is babies are the same as when you had your children. Society has changed and some research has shown safer practices. A baby needs warm milk, loving arms and family support. It is our job to help our children provide these things to their children in their ways.
I am often surprised to find out that many women are afraid to give birth. When I ask what they are afraid of, they often state that they are not sure that they can do it.
I now believe from my years of working with women that the women who choose to accept technology over nature miss a truly empowering segway into parenting. I know in my own births I was proud of the fact that I could grow a healthy baby and my body worked as it should and I delivered my children "the old fashioned way".
I firmy believe that so many things need to line up prefectly for us to get pregnant, and yet it works. This is a miracle. Then we grow a human inside of us. Another miracle. There are over 6,000,000,000 humans on the planet; each of us is a miracle. I know so many miraculous women who have birthed before me and since me, who have also birthed their babies. These women are no greater or less miraculous than the women pregnant today.
I know that nature does not abandon the miracles when labour begins. As we get pregnant and grow our miraculous babies, so can we deliver our babies. This is not a radical statement, simply a basic truth.
I know there are women who will challenge me by saying that they had to (or they know some one who had to) have a medical intervention to deliver their baby safely. To this I say thank you to our wonderful health care providers and our generous health care system. I am humbly grateful for the knowlege and skills provided. I am also a believer in the judicious use of interventions.
I would just like us all to have faith that women are strong and designed to give birth, that babies are designed to be born and that nature is wise.